Kenya: The plight of gays and lesbians in Kenya

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Why do Powerful Men cheat?

Is it that all men cheat or is it that men in the public eye find it rough.
Was watching Larry King and the drama unfolding was about Gov. Sanford, actually he gathered so much obloquy that he couldn't handle, Larry had these three analysts on the show, should just call them marriage counsellors instead of relationship analysts.

CNN: Why do powerful men cheat?
The lady was saying a man can love two women at the same time, let us see how true that it is, one of the guys on the show said no!
Powerful men suffer from love addiction or should we also call it power addiction.A man getting involved with two women at the same and creating this triangle that he needs to control and making sure it does not control him. Ruth Harris says; To exist, the triangle demands three complementary elements: love, power and danger. Mixed incautiously, these elements, like those in physics, are volatile and potentially explosive.
Being loved by two women and dominating the triangle is quite simple, twice as much love means twice as much virility. It reaches a time when the power to hire and fire; praise or criticise becomes stale and the absolute power, the ultimate power comes in mind, this is when a man has power where women compete for him even if it is not by consent, Harris then says the power addict's habit grows until only bigger and bigger doses will satisfy.
Men do not understand the dynamics and implications of the triangle; it is just that it is interesting and exciting in life. Being puissant and in control is highly thrilling. Exacting more love and exercising more power and increasing the dosage of danger until finally the triangle that is thought to be controlled, controlls. And that is exactly what the triangle did on Gov. Sanford's face, exploded.

So what happens after a guy is caught, trust? The same guy on
Larry king says trust can be restored after an affair, actually most marriage break-ups do not result from cheating , but then he described the marriage as a plate, a broken plate that is then glued together but you can see the cracks. The cracks symbolizes trust but what caught me is that he says trust can be restored alright but it takes 5 years to treat chronic sex addiction, how long will trust be restored? Clearly, we know that love without truth is hypocrisy.

In a relationship what is better, love addiction or sex addiction? love is a desirable trait only if he has his eyes only on you. So is it hypocrisy if Gov Sanford was single because he was not hurting anyone, human beings are social beings, will his wife take him back in? The problem is when you have a family then you start an affair and end up falling in love with the other woman, Gov. Sanford should play his cards right because if his wife leaves him, he is a goner. In any way he is being told to resign... he criticised Clinton before now it is his time to be judged.

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If Gay= Glamorous?

The two most important things I said I am not going to do this year or ever are (on my list):-

i) Getting into a fight over a boy with another boy, it makes me cringe every time I think about that. It is mildly humiliating, it is one of the things I do not want to remember about my twenties. Some homodrama that was.

ii) Gay preconceptions. I feel like am officially going to hell!

Hold up...

Why do people think that gay is glamorous? They think, Oh! Since you are gay you must know about this and that, they have this preconceptions formulated in their minds about the ultimate gay guy!
When I was going to school last week, I said hi to my friends at their gate, we know each other since pre-school, it feels like Wisteria Lane; same age, it is like parents of all the houses went on a meeting and decided which several women are going to be pregnant each year! So when I passed them I had feeling they were talking about me! They were. So in the evening, let's call her Ant, she asked me If I had any gay friends, OMG I thought that my heart had stopped beating for a few seconds. My face become hot, if I were in a room I swear I would have raised the temperature steadily, It was outside and it felt so hot, it was freakin cooold!
I gave a casual: no! And I asked: why? She said: nothing, it is true I do not have gay friends as such, only my BFF who is not even sure if she is or she is not.

Ant is such a show off, we all hate her, she is vain and materialistic and miss-know-it-all, it is not like we are not, but she rubs it on our faces every now and then, she would tell me, did you watch the last episode of gossip girl or What is going to happen to happen to Marc on season 4 after Betty got the editorial job instead of him, so, because I do not want to look so gay, I ask "what's that," inside am dying with bated breath because I love Blair Waldorf!
I mean, Ant's attempts of being a fruit fly is so desperate, it is disgusting. My sis asks me if her teal headscarf goes with her turquoise handbag or people will stare at her coz she is clashing colours, PLEASE!! THAT!!! is enough fagness for me to handle! If there is going to be any symbiotic relationship that am going to be involved in, I ain't going to be that fag!

When I was 14 I used to think I was the only gay guy in Kenya, seriously! I did not even think of any of the boys in my class as "cute" until I went to High school, this boy who used to disturb me a lot, one day he said something to me I nearly died, I did not think he was gay we all knew his gal friend, he opened my eyes and I started thinking that all gay dudes were pervs, ok some are, this post is not even about that.

Anyway you can imagine when I read Pater Nostra's post about the gay albino and the other handi-capable dude it was shocking, this is the part am going to hell for! I did not know there were such "gay people" it is like a clique we form that; for you to be gay you have to be like this, I mean gay people always rate people, Oh! he is a seven, am a nine, am way out of his league, maybe it is true gay people are just vain.
The preconceptions of gay guys is that they are obsessed with thinness and tallness, addicted to models, you have to be fine out of a magazine to be gay, you should have abs, underwear models as such. The ignoble thoughts that gayness = glamorous is so untrue maybe it is. It is like, it is hard to imagine a fat guy is gay or white people used to think there are no black gay people (what's the sequence? gay black or black gay gosh!) or there are no gay people from this tribe or that, what clowns. I had this attribution that all gay people were less or more like me, hard and strange to imagine that the crossing barriers of sexuality is all knowing, the moment of clarity is here and now, gay people should just stop being vain and stop dwelling on the exteriors. Am included.

OTHER QUESTIONS
1. Did anyone watch tonight's news? I mean last nite it is 1am.
Reported: This bisexual kid 10 again who had an operation because of his sexual orientation?
I did not get it! Do guys on Citizen have their terms right or is it me? A bisexual having an operation coz of his sexual orientation? They made sexual orientation sound so tangible! Or did they mean hermaphrodite? They surely know what that is? Or I should just check up the definition of the three things, I did not get them, bisexual, operation and orientation, I hope it is me.

2. The three homosexuals who were arrested in South B this weekend, I missed the story I went to the toilet! It was on the radio, anyone who got it? Love to know!

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TEN: Going Around 10?

Wednesday
Report that a 10 year old girl had been raped by her class teacher. She is pregnant. She has been admitted in Kenyatta National Hospital.

Debate: Should she or should she not have an abortion?

Friday
News that the 10 year old girl has been discharged by the family, no forwarding address left. Search by women from Gender Violence and Recovery center. Fruitless.

TuesdayA woman in Western Province has held a 10 year old boy captive for a week. The boy is her sex partner, she feeds him with an aphrodisiac, a kind of a white root, their very own Viagra. Horny.

Thursday
The neighbours match to the chief and report the lady, the chief comes, the woman thrusts the boy under the bed and sits on the bed. The neighbours break into the house, but the woman refuses to get up from the bed. Plain stupid.


My aunt came yesterday, she was giving us a lecture, blah! and on and on, then she said, "you will ruin your life in just 5 minutes." Really? 5 minutes! That is all that it takes for me to contract something or for a 10 year old girl to get pregnant?
I know a lot about sex or I think I do, everyone does, right? I know all the theory and completely no practical skills about sex, then she tells me 5 minutes! Seriously.
Maybe I do not know anything about sex from all the manuals, guides and pamphlets that I have read and all the lectures I have received but I know that at 10, I was exploring my body with my neighbours kids, I showed her my peen and she showed me her vajay-jay and we tried to insert it somewhere then we got bored and went to play dress-up.
A 10 year old girl is not fully developed, her organs are still unripe. She has not had her first period as in yet. At twenty, a girl does not even enjoy sex as in such, she does that because of her boyfriend and stuffs. At thirty, she she becomes so horny and she wants a 20 year old juicer pumped into her because her libido has gone up, she has sex because she wants to have sex and not because she has to. Shocker!

A 15-70 boy/man is just the same, I've been told his sexual satisfaction is when he cums and starts jizzing and he is done. An average man has at least sexual thoughts for at least a span of is it 7 minutes? But there is an age he can't take it up! Ugh!

A grown up man having sex with a 10 year old girl is like drilling on a wall, with your finger. The wall is her, she is dead! You feel the pain and no sexual satisfaction. Completely. Heinous.

At this point in time I thought that people in Kenya would be talking about homosexuality but they are debating about paedophilia, The daily Nation had a guy write in and he said, "If we tolerate homosexuals, why not embrace paedophilia?" They are talking about it alright both of them. Not a surprise.
Conflating homosexuality and paedophilia? what are the basis of comparison? The grounds of Fusion? I know there are lot of homosexual generalisation, but paedophilia? The guy said homosexuals come into being by, loneliness, rejection,affirmation, intimacy, identity, relationships, parenting, hatred, gender confusion and the search for belonging. So untrue.
But he did not say anything about the pedophiles, pedophiles are:- wikipedia!

The term pedophilia (or paedophilia) has a range of definitions as found in psychology, law enforcement, and the vernacular. As a medical diagnosis, it is defined as a psychological disorder in which an adult experiences a sexual preference for prepubescent children. According to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), pedophilia is specified as a form of paraphilia in which a person either has acted on intense sexual urges towards children, or experiences recurrent sexual urges towards and fantasies about children that cause distress or interpersonal difficulty. The disorder is common among people who commit child sexual abuse; however, some offenders do not meet the clinical diagnosis standards for pedophilia. In strictly behavioral contexts, the word "pedophilia" has been used to refer to child sexual abuse itself, also called "pedophilic behavior".[

At this point am done trying to think on how I became gay, am so over it. So every time a-know-it-all- person comes with his thesis, I just can't stand it. Before I would go round some blogs and sites seeing what people think about this and that, and now it just turns my black face ashen white! My blood boils from the homo ignorance, on how they just cannot try to understand. One person asked another guy if he can meet a gay person! aren't you afraid? the other person said he would carry a knife, it is so sad, it s funny. I mean am laughing at it. So now what? You would be blinded by my beauty, you will have to Carry knife to obstruct it? So, what am I going to do to you? Dude! you've completely lost the plot. I don't want you. The ordinary straight Kenyan guy thinks am out to get it him, why? It is funny. Yaani I've got nothing else but come to you and say, hey!! You want a little action with me? BITCH PLEASE. You should be knowing by know I've got my fantasises, and you are not included.

I think it is scary, I'll be walking home from somewhere and a woman would rush and take his kid away just because am gay or it is hard to imagine a bunch of gay bashers at my doorstep with rungus and ready to burn my house.

I hate this post, it has taken me to I don't know what heights, I don't know what!!! it has taken from being an indifferent bitch to a manic person to a laughing clown now I feel so vulnerable.

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Global Voices Online: Introducing....S.A

Ladies and Gentlemen... I mean gentlemen, either way...


Introducing...



S.A


LOL Nothing significant about that, it's my initials (of my REAL name) Just thought I'd be cocky! I have no idea why I started writing this blog, yeah! I know it is a gay blog but it does not amplify the gay voice as such, and every time I say am going to stop writing this blog something draws back, I don't know what! Just can't stand that! Am always sounding like an out of control person and am not.


Anyway thought I'd share with you my first post on Global voices online, I co-wrote it with my editor, Hey Ndesanjo! Do NOT forget to check it out, Let me put it bluntly, am whoring my post LOL I think am clear now. It is not personal...





Cheers!!

And it is scary see myself as a gay activist, And would someone please tell me how you fuckingly insert a hyperlink

http://globalvoicesonline.org/2009/06/10/africa-gay-and-lesbian-voices-in-african-blogosphere/

Sorry it has refused to come, tried it a hundred times now am bored Ugh!!! Sorry maybe some other time

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Depression, Recession and Wealth Destruction

I needed a new pair of shoes so I asked my mom if I could get any! She asked me if we are going to eat the shoes, I said no, then I realized that I had been tricked.Talk about stagflation in my house!!
Words that are perpetually used by Time Magazine and Newsweek lately are Depression, Recession and Wealth destruction, anyway the whole of this week we are waking up to bad news and our president does not help in any way apart from calling us kumbafu! I just read that KBC are facing a credit crunch of 22bn thanks to the government not paying for the services rendered.
General motors are introducing new buses and clearly we can see they are facing hard times.
Fashion houses such as Veronique Branquinho has just gone down and Christian Lacroix has just filed for bankruptcy awww!! what a shame! hope they will rise up.

When Nas said hip-hop is dead, now we can see it is dead for sure, somebody asked if Haute Couture is dead or dying, hell-to-the-NO! I mean we can see and hear Arabs purchasing couture from Chanel for $100,000 a piece, how will it die, it is just that the old money is being spent from the Royal family and all the people who own the world! We can even see that if you get you get a promotion and a pay rise at work today, it is not like you are going to start spending the money on unnececities.
Was reading The NewYork Times and an ounce of caviar is going for $190 at the Upper East Side and no one is buying, In Nakumatt saw someone picking up I don't know how many grams of caviar for Ksh500, I am definitely not buying something with the same weight as a candle for Ksh500 just to munch, I don't eat lunch not because I don't want to, but because I can't! I mean spending 150 for lunch and my mom is not helping either, checking on the bright side at least I will have a tummy like Ciara's or maybe I should work out and have LLCoolJ's body, I do not know much about working out, but shouldn't you have lunch?
And am saving for a Lois Vuitton bag (that should be my vision 2030, because I will need to auction my arm! but then if I sell my arm what am I going to carry the bag with??!!) Okay! I will stay with my arm.

I am writing this post because yesternight I was watching Ntv and they said that the water levels at the Kindaruma Dam has has been decreasing significantly??!! What's strange is that it has been raining for the past two months!! I had the roof of my room repaired Coz I swear and God is my witness I would have woken up and found myself already drowned!! How come we cannot harvest water, wealth destruction comes in mind! Lots of water just goes to waste and now my mom is nagging me to use my computer in moderation because the power bill has practically doubled! Anyway I don't know much about Agriculture and harvesting water though I passed my Agriculture paper but I know Intensive farming is harmful to the environment and isn't that our vision 2030 our new mission, we need a tutorial like a two year-old.

Bloggers Appeal

Please am looking for all LGBTQ bloggers in the Africa, please send me a link anybody, somebody please, I want to know all of ya, just anyone! please send me a link, my fingers are tired of googling, copying and pasting and if I haven't added you on my blog send me a link please!! We want to create awareness in this homoignorant world, we want to amplify our voices and be heard (just never thought myself as a human rights activist especially a gay one)but we have to raise our voices and be heard, we have to scream if we have to!! Gays are here to stay and they will have to deal with it! Just got myself a tutor, I've got a cost accounting paper exactly one week from now and that paper will not pass itself

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Ten Gay and Ungay Things that are just Down

After exhausting all the topics we could think of, and decided that by the time we are thirty and we are still queer, my best friend is going to carry my child LOL. we agreed to compile all stuffs that are just down, out, dead and should be buried (yaani down tu sana), we just said ten but they are 13 excuse our ignorance number one is a tie:-

10. Stupid whorey gals who tsk tsk! when you enter a club so that you can buy them drinks, eish!! bitches! we know of some gold diggers who have got class, clearly you don't know what that is.

9. Guyz who call themselves studs and jocks and whose emotional attention span is just as long as and not longer than their dicks, come on! tone down on the James bondelieties, so much talk then you deliver substandard services??!!

8. Butches who don't want to see their gal friends talking to any guyz, Oh My Gosh! sometimes it is non-sexual (try telling that to a lesbian), straight dudes beware, I've seen the aftermath of a broken jaw, I did not know any gal can throw a punch that way (it is scary).

7. Stupid, naive 19 year old guys and gals who think they are ready to take on the world! drink, then lower their pants in public and the chicks showing off their boobs? just because you are past 18 and legal to take Al-kahal, the damm thing is taken in moderation. You are one year to 20 and that age sucks, fighting with your parents, you are broke and you need to party, happy cause you pissed off your mom, your gal friend is nagging you coz you haven't called for two days, and the gal is stressed you haven't called for two days, not sweet after all huh!

6. Old men with their pot bellies beckoning on young meat, eww! do not enter that car, you will not like what you find (been their there done that)really irky!!

5. Miley cyrus, she ain't down but how come a teenage gal with the name Hannah Montana is making millions of shillings while am still in the slummer LOL

4.Evil pimps who who whore young galz, (read the sun, sand and sin and it is heinous) the deepest hottest hole in hell is not reserved for homosexuals but for you.

3. Queens who wear tight fitting shirts and do not know what deodorant is! and the Mohawks??!! why are they all sporting mohawks , Tyra made it and killed it and that is the way it stays, and someone should please tell them not all guyz are gay, why do they sideline the chicks, one day you'll find a homophobe who will bash your head.

2. Stupid guyz and butches who keep following you everywhere forcing themselves on you, Hey! just because am gay and you are also gay does not mean we are going to hit it off, a boy like me has got standards (what is that I hit on anything that moves LOL just kidding.)


BONUSES
Stupid perpetrators of violence who caused the death of nearly a thousand people and are still running loose, squandering more cash and spreading more hate, you guyz are just down so down.

Gay bashers and homophobes who bicker and in reality we are not sure if they are or they are not. A study a by a guy called Henry Adams showed that on a penile plethysmograph measure (whatever that is) aggressively homophobic men tend to get sexually aroused by explicit gay male pornography. (what does that mean OMG!!?)

1. (drums drums) Number one spot goes to Guys who think they will rescue lesbians from their pandemic by one magic nite in bed. (so down)

and

When you tell a guy to tell you when he is close to cumming then he don't and all the jizz gush into your mouth, down ya throat, ewww!! If you think that jizz is fortified with mineral and protein why don't you jerk off in a glass and drink it because am sure if it were that sweet it would be on the top shelf with the sundae and it would be a great bread spread.

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